As a loved one of an addict, you have spent many sleepless nights worrying about the unthinkable ~ anywhere from how are you going to support the family alone, to have they been arrested, to even checking local hospitals to see if they are alive. Some have even gotten that horrible call in the middle of the night.

It is not fair, and just because the loved one has agreed to treatment, doesn't erase the emotional roller coaster you have been on. Addiction does not affect just one person - it affects any number of people who love and care about them, from one degree or another. Our role of enablers or co-dependents are assumed for many reasons and always for good intentions - we are trying to help, or we just get so tired, we give in. We give them money when we know we shouldn't; we cover for them when we know the truth; we believe them when they tell us it won't happen again, when we know it will. Our nature is to believe because we know this person as they were before the addiction set in. We know the good that is inside them and only want them back.

Deceit, lies and mistrust are hard to overcome and just because the loved one is getting help, doesn't mean that everything is going to go back to normal in your life. Your anger, grief, pain and suffering are not going to disappear overnight. It is a process. You, like the addict, have been suffering for an extended period of time and it is going to take time, to heal.

The Cedars truly recognizes this and wants to help the loved ones too. In addition to helping and supporting the resident when they complete the program, it is essential to their recovery, that they are returning to a healthy and safe environment at home ~ this includes the loved ones they will be living with and sharing their lives with. Recovery is a joint effort and involves and entire family healing process. Returning to an environment of pent up anger, resentment or even high expectations on either side, is detrimental to the success of all involved.

The Cedars helps the family members while the individual is in treatment, so that when the family is re-united, everyone is on the same playing field. All are working towards the same goal. It does not happen over night - it is an ongoing process that requires commitment on both sides of the fence.

As undesirable as it may be, if you can not find yourself committing to a continued relationship with this person, that is okay also. Please let us know this though, so we can help the resident through this while in the program, and also help you through this process. It is not a decision you have to make immediately, and letting us help you through this may be one of the best decisions you make. It is not easy - you have been through a lot - but let us help you begin healing first, before you make those decisions.

At The Cedars, we truly care about you, the addict and all those involved. Allow us to help you sort through these emotions.

Call us today and speak with a counselor @ 1 - 877 - 8 Cedars